Have you noticed all the ads for hotels and resorts that show couples massage? Couples lie head to head, touching hands as they get a simultaneous, deeply relaxing massage. I'd rather have my massage alone and meet my husband in the hot tub later, but for some people it's the very heart of the romantic spa experience. Most spas offer couples massage these days, but make sure you ask about the facilities before you book. It can be everything from a large treatment room at day spas to lavish facilities with fireplaces, lounging beds and private patios at resort spas. If you want to plan a romantic spa weekend , here's what you need to know before you go.

Williamsburg Lodge in Williamsburg, Virginia, is about to open a new 20,000 foot, colonial-style spa with treatments inspired by five centuries of wellness, including hot stone massage inspired by Native Americans, European-style "water cures," African rootworks and powders, and herbal treatments from the garden. Colonial America might seem a bit of a stretch for a spa concept, but George Washington loved to take the waters at Berkeley Springs, West Virginia, and bought property there after the Revolution. Thomas Jefferson was a guest at The Homestead, one of the best spas in Virginia. You can still bath in the 98-degree waters he enjoyed inside a round barn-like structure called the Jefferson Pools. It is thought to be the oldest spa structure in America.